The title of this blog post is never help somebody without their permission. What on
earth do I mean by that?
Actually, I was watching a video of my mentor Ray Higdon on this topic, and I thought wow, this is actually quite important and really true. So I wanted to share it with you too. So what do I mean by that?
When you see people doing things in an incorrect way or not very effectively or outright wrong way and you want to help, like you've got the best intentions in mind and you try to help this person and then surprise, you actually get a negative feedback from them. You know, they get angry with you, they get upset by you trying to whatever fix them trying to help them trying to patronize them or whatever, you know what I mean?
Unsolicited advice is almost always unaccepted and unappreciated. Unsolicited advice is almost always unappreciated. So even though you have the best intention, you have the person's best interest in mind, and you see somebody doing something wrong, or you see somebody really not getting results when they shouldn't be getting results and you just get a man, you're doing this wrong, you know, like, let me show you how to do it right?
Almost always you will experience resistance from that person. Why? Because your advice is unsolicited. And hey, you know, like, if you think about it, you are in the wrong. If you’re pushing your agenda over somebody, if you pushing your advice over somebody without that person asking for your advice, then you are spamming them. You are basically you know, without asking their permission and pushing your information on to them, right. So you shouldn't do that.
And most of the time, if you do that, they're not going to take your advice anyway even if they're going to be polite enough to just hear you out. They're not going to act on that advice anyway and they're not going to use that advice most of the time. So instead, what should you do then instead? What you should do instead is ask that person, do you want some advice? Do you want some help? Look, I see you trying to do some stuff on social media. Would you like some advice? Would you like few tips? You know, or I see you trying to get results in business, but you're not getting? Would you like me to give you some advice and some tips? Ask for their permission. You know, do you need some help, right?
Because I remember one time we had a meeting with my sponsor, and somebody from her team came and we were sitting there and she said, “Well, how can we help this person?” And I said, “Well, before we start helping this person, let me just ask one question,” and I turned to that person and I said, “Do you feel that you need help in business?” And guess what that person said, “Oh, no, I'm all right. I'm fine. No problem at all. No, no, I don't need any help.” Guess what, that person is no longer around in the business. But because that person was closed, because they were not accepting the help. I could have delivered the best training of my life that I could have done, with all the passion and the motivation and everything.
And that person would have used zero percent of that training, because they were not ready for help. You know, they say some people will not participate in their own rescue. And some people are ask all. It's called Ask All, ask all is a person who asks for advice, but then don't actually take that advice. They don't actually act on it. So always asked the person, “Hey I can see you doing these things. How do you think you're getting on? Are you happy with your results? Are you happy with what you're getting?”
And that person might say, “Well, actually, I'm not very happy, actually, I'm not getting very good results.” Then you ask again, you say, “Hey, would you like some tips and advice? If I gave you some tips and advice would that be okay? Would you like to get some help?” And the person if they say, yes, that's the second question. And then I would go on to ask the third question. I'd say, “Great. And if I was to give you some advice, and if I was to give you some tips, from my experience, would you use it?”
That's the question that most people don't ask. They just say, hey, do you need some help? Or let me help you, right? And then they pour their heart and soul into trying to help this person into teaching them all in the next half an hour or an hour, only for that person to walk away and never use a single bit of that advice right. So especially if it's somebody in your team, you go, “Hey, if I teach you this thing, if we're going to spend time doing this, are you going to use what I'm going to teach you?” And you want to get a yes. You want to get a yes to all three of those questions. If that's a yes, then off you go, you can give that person advice and they will appreciate it, they will act on it, and they will value it and they will thank you for that advice. Otherwise, you might get a slap in the face. And that's the last thing I want you to get.
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