Success Is A Way Of Life - Not A Destination

I want to talk about the success gap. And what does it mean? And I want to also talk about being nice, and it might not be as nice as you think it is.



First of all, I wanted to talk about the success gap. And what is success gap? Success gap is the gap between what you know, and what you do because most people think that it's all about knowing, it's all about how to like, how can I do this? And how can I do that? And what script should I use? And what message should I send and what post should I do? But that's all about how, how, how, and knowing more doesn't always lead to earning more, or to succeeding more, because too many people, they keep learning, they keep learning, they have more degrees than a thermometer, but they are still broke. Why? Because they are not applying what they are learning.

One of the homework or challenges I'd love to give you is every time you go to a training every time you listen to our live, or you listen to a webinar, whatever it is, take at least one note, one takeaway, what can I take away from this video and put in practice and go put in practice, because there's a, what they call a law of diminishing intent. So the longer you put something off, the longer you don't act on an idea, the lesser the chance that you will ever do, the lesser of the chance that you will ever act on that idea.

So you want to act on it as soon as possible. And it's like, again, think about it in terms of like a universe sending you an idea. Let's say you’re trying to have a breakthrough. Let's say you're trying to achieve something and you've been asking for it. You've been praying, you've been practicing law of attraction, you've been really hoping that you're going to get this idea and, unless this idea comes and you waste it, you don't put it in practice, then whoever or whatever sent you that idea, will they send you another one? What's the point? If you believe in God, or you believe that the universe does it or whatever, it will say, “Well, why should I send you another idea? You wasted the last one I gave you. You didn't act on it anyway. So what's the point of giving you more ideas?” So you need to put in practice what you're learning.

There's so many aha moments, there's so much gold in your notebooks that you just need to go ahead and use that stuff. You need to go ahead and put it in practice. So that's the success gap between what you know and what you do. You might already know everything you need to know to succeed, but now you need to start putting it into practice. You need to start applying what you've been learning. You know what I mean? And that's really the first thing I wanted to share with you.

Okay, so the second thing I wanted to talk about is being nice, and you might think, well, it's nice to be nice, right? It's nice to be nice to your team members and it especially applies to your business, right? So are you being nice? Now nice if you translate nice stands for nothing inside me cares enough. That's nice. Nothing inside me cares enough. Now you might think bloody hell. That's not nice but let me explain this to you. So if you do things for your team members, if you don't allow your team members to grow, and to learn, and you chew everything for them and give it to them and spoon feed them, you do mouth to mouth, you give everything for your team members without allowing them to go and find information.

So let's say your team member goes well, where do I find that document? You know, where can I get that document and you go, “Oh, let me go to the website. Let me find the document. Let me send the document to you.” You're being nice; nothing inside you cares enough, right? Because what does that mean? That means I don't care about you developing, I don't care about you becoming independent. I'm just going to give you the information. Why develop the habit? Why develop the muscle, right? I'll just do it for you. But your team member finds another team member, your team member recruit somebody and your team member says, oh, could you do? Could you do a call with that team member, but I can't be there and you go, “Don't worry. I'm nice. Don't you don't have to be on that call. I'll just speak to your team member.” You’re being nice. Nothing inside cares enough because you don't care about them becoming a leader one day, because if they are not on the call, while you are talking to the team member, they are not learning how to talk to a team member. They're not learning how to be a leader. So you are being nice, which means you don't care enough about them, becoming a leader about them developing.

Does that make sense? So that's being nice. So are you being nice in your business and to your team members, are you being nice because you shouldn't be what you should be is you should be teaching people and what I like is tell show try do, tell show try do so instead of you doing everything for your team members, if your team member goes or what's that perfume and you tell them straight away instead you show them where to find the information you show them where to find the price you show the way to find something then you’re teaching them right so I like the system of tell show try do so I tell you what to do, then I show you how to do it, then I let you try do it while I'm watching over you if you mess up I'll catch you fall right and I will fix it up.

And then finally once I'm happy you’re doing it well. Then I'm going to let you do it. You know what I mean? That's tell show try do now that means I'm not being nice anymore. Instead, I'm teaching you, I'm developing you; I'm helping you to become me. I'm helping you to become independent. Because as a leader, I don't want you just to be a follower of mine. I want you to be a leader as well. I want you to be independent. So I can take you drop you in a new country in a new city where you don't know a single person and you can build a tremendous business over there, because you've already got all the skills and knowledge necessary.

That's being not nice, but it's being somebody who actually cares about the person, who actually cares about them developing and progressing. So sometimes you think of just being nice and helpful, while you’re actually stopping that person from progressing. So think about those instances where in your business, are you being nice, right? And instead think, how can I help them to learn to find information? How can I help these people to become resourceful? How can I help them to get the results that they want to get?

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Yours in success

Gediminas.