The title for the blog is that some people want attention more than they want
And as you’re building your network marketing business, as you're building your team, you will notice people like that in your business. At first, you won't realize that and you'll just be trying to help this person and this person keeps coming to you with a different problem, with a different challenge, with a different obstacle, and you keep helping them, but then you see that they’re not making any progress, they’re not actually taking your advice and doing something with it.
They just like complaining. They just like your attention, and you spending time with them saying, “Oh, poor you, oh, I'm so sorry for you.” They just like spending time with you. They just like talking to you. They just like getting attention, but they don't want the solution. They don't want results. They just like to complain. They just like to get somebody else's attention about their problems and their issues. So as a leader, you have to be conscious of this and you have to be aware of this, because it can really drain your time, it can really drain your energy if you have a lot of people like that on your team very quickly. You can be wasting a lot of your time just dealing with problems, dealing with drama, dealing with drama all the time and you don't have much time left to actually build your business.
A good test for that is if you give advice to somebody to see if they act on that advice, because if you tell somebody what to do and they don't do it, and then they come back again with another problem, and you tell them what to do, and again, they don't do it. You give them another advice. And again, they don't take that advice. You know how it's called. It's called an ask-hole. Ask-hole is a person who constantly ask for advice, and they don't use the advice that they’ve be given.
So there's a kind of people that they just like to complain, they just like to create problems in their life to get attention from other people, because they've learned unfortunately through condition from the young age that whatever they complaint, whenever they have a problem, they get attention from their parents, they get attention from their friends, they get attention from the teachers. “Oh, so that works. Every time I complain, every time I whinge, every time I come up with the problem, I'll get attention from other people.” And guess what, most of us we just want attention in our life, which is love spending time with other people and getting their attention.
That's the way of getting attention, but in a business, it can be really damaging in terms of costing you time when you have a person that keeps coming at you with another problem, with another problem, with another problem and it's not a problem in itself. People coming to you with challenges it's not a problem. But if you give that person advice, they don't do anything and they come back next day with the same problem again and they go, “Oh I’m really struggling with,” and you go, “But I told you yesterday, or I told you last week what to do. Why do you keep bringing the same thing to me if I already gave you a solution? The reason why is because they want your attention more than they want your help.
They want your attention more than they want to give results. So they'll just keep coming at you with the same problems. And as long as you keep giving them their attention, it will never end. So what's the solution? What can you do? What you can do as a leader is at some point, call their bullshit out, and just say, “Hey we already covered this bit. I've already told you what to do in the situation and you haven't done what's going on here. Do you just want to chat with me? I mean, do you want to my attention? Or do you actually want to progress in your life? Do you actually want to progress in your business because we can keep playing this game but I don't know what’s the point, right? If I'm giving you advice and you're not taking that advice, then what are we doing here?” you know what I mean?
So this way very quickly, you'll notice. So it's not in itself a bad thing if somebody asks a lot of questions, if they are acting on your advice. I love when people ask me loads of questions, I actually tell new people, I say, “Look, if you don't call me, that's where I'm concerned, because I'm thinking, what the heck is this person doing because they should be having questions, right?” So I love people from my team to call me 10 times a day, 20 times a day. I love it. Because I know that person is in action, that person is doing something that person is thinking and these questions are reasons. So it's not a problem, the questions, but observe, if the person is using the advice, are they coachable? Is the advice you're giving and the teaching is the person taking that on board and using it? Or do they just go Aha, and then they go do the same thing again. And then they go, look, I still have this problem. And you go, “Well, I gave you the solution.” You know what I mean?
So that's and they don’t have to accept it, that it's going to happen in your business, that there will be people who love attention more than they love results, and just accept that, realize that and then maybe just sort of put them on another shelf where you know that that's that type of a person etcetera. And you can even have an open conversation with that person say, “Look, I think you're not ready yet to get results in business, tell me if I'm wrong. And when you are ready, you know, then let's go, let's rock and roll because right now I don't think you're ready yet because it just doesn't seem that you have the right mind-set.” Some people will not like that but hey, it's better to be honest that just fooling that person or not being transparent with that person, etcetera. You know, it's just going to be on the long run. It's going to work out better for you, you know what I mean?
That's my tip for you. Watch out as a leader your time is very limited. It's very finite. So you have to spend it well. You have to spend it with the right people. And like Jim, Ron used to say, you need to spend your time not with the people who need it, but with the people who deserve it. And how do people prove that they do deserve your time by taking action, by producing results, by doing the things that they need to do. That's how they deserve your time, not the people who need.
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