Should You Expect Gratitude?
I want to talk about gratefulness and gratitude. So very often you'll
find if you are a person who helps other people, who supports other people, who
helps people in trouble and things like that, you'll find that not everybody
remembers when you helped them, not everybody is grateful for what you done for
them.
One of the things that happens is if you helped other people, if you
supported other people and then sometime later, they're not grateful, they don't
appreciate the fact that you helped them in the past, they don't even remember
that you helped them in the past, you might get upset by that, you might get
annoyed by that and go “Oh my gosh, I did so much for this person and now they
being you no complete asshole to me and things like that, how dare they?" And there are few things with that.
Number
one,disappointment is always pre planned. So you cannot be disappointed, unless
you plan to be disappointed. Now, I know it sounds crazy but what do I mean by
that? What I mean by that, if you help other people, if you support other
people, and then you expect them to be grateful for that, then you are setting
yourself up for disappointment because of your expectations. Right? If you
expect something that means you’re setting up yourself for failure, because if
I expect you to do this or that and you don't do that, then I’m upset but the
only reason why I'm upset is not because you did or didn't do something. It's
because I expected you to do something, I expected you to behave in a certain
way you understand what I'm saying? So you can only be upset you can only be
disappointed.
Almost all the time in your life is if you expect something. You
go to a restaurant and they take extra long to make your food and now you’re upset
but you're not upset because they taking extra-long, you’re upset because you
expected them to be quicker. You know what I mean? So Tony Robbins says, Replace Expectations for Appreciation.
So instead of expecting for things to be in certain way, just appreciate the
way the things are.
Okay, so that's the one right, but coming back to the fact
that if you've helped people, and they're not appreciative, they not being grateful
for the stuff you've done for them. You might come to a wrong conclusion. You
might draw a wrong conclusion, saying you know what there wasn’t a point of
helping people, what’s the point of doing good things for other people, what’s
the point of supporting people, if I’ve supported this person and they didn’t
appreciate it. If I helped this person and they weren’t grateful to me. So
what’s the point to help anybody? What’s the point of supporting anybody? And
that’s a wrong conclusion because should you help other people? Absolutely.
Should you support other people? Definitely. Should you be good to other
people? For sure! 100%.
However, there is something you have to understand that
even though sometimes you’ll help somebody, you’ll support somebody, you will
do great things for somebody and that particular person, is not going to be
grateful, is not going to be appreciative, they will even forget that you
helped them and maybe even do some horrible things to you later down the line.
It doesn’t mean that it was all wasted, it doesn’t mean that it was all for
nothing. Why, because God and the Universe, has a way of returning it to you
anyway. But sometimes, you’ll help this person and they are complete “A” hole
and they will never appreciate it.
But you will get the return not from that
person it will come from somebody else. You get what I’m saying? So the
universe and God will bless you with other people in your life who will support
you, who will help you, who will change your life, and even though you didn’t
do anything to them, by the person that you were, by the fact that you were
helping other people, by the fact that you supported other people, you became a
person who attracted those that support you, those that help you, those that
invest in you, those that become life changing people in your life.
So don’t stop believing in people, don’t stop helping
people and supporting people just for the fact that you’re not getting
immediate return from that person, because you can get it from somewhere else.
It’s like an ever flowing thing and you help one person, another person helps
you out and it’s just like a cycle. So don’t come to the wrong conclusion by
saying, “Oh because this person was ungrateful I’m not helping anybody
anymore.” That would be a wrong conclusion. Keep helping even if some people
are ungrateful because it will come back to you in different ways from
different people but you’ll still be blessed, you’ll see.
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Yours
in success
Gediminas.
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