How to overcome the FEAR OF REJECTION?
I
want to talk about how to overcome the fear of rejection.
Fear of rejection is
really a pain in the ass in network marketing business and in many other
businesses too. People are just scared, people are scared of somebody saying no
to them, people are scared of people shooting down their offer, people are
scared of not getting the approval from people that they respect and like, and
maybe we develop that as part of growing up where we all like other boys and
girls to like us, etcetera. Maybe it's evolutionary, where your reputation was
important in your tribe and if the whole tribe doesn't like you, then you get cast
out and all of that. I don't know.
But the fact is that it is a pain in the ass
because a lot of people are just scared, they’re scared of fear of rejection
and that's why they never reach out to anybody. They're scared of messaging
people, they're scared of calling people, they're scared of presenting the business
to their friends and family because they're scared of what if they say no? What
if they laugh at me? What if they don't approve of me? And it took me so long
to help myself to overcome the fear of rejection.
But
there's one thing that I hope will help you; this idea that I'm going to share
today. Imagine this scenario. Imagine that I'm super scared of talking to girls
and you're my best friend and there is a girl that I really like. So I asked
you to do me a favour. I say, “Look, could you go to that girl, could you go to
Rita because I really liked Rita. I really fancy her; could you go to her and
ask her if she would go out with me because I'm super scared of asking her?”
For me, you go to her and you say, “Hey, my friend Gediminas, would really like
to take you out on a date. Would you go out with him?” And she says, “Who
Gediminas? No way!” So she doesn't want to go out with me. Now you were the
middleman. You were just asking her for me. Would you feel really bad that she
rejected me? Would you feel rejected if she said, “No, I wouldn't go out with Gediminas!”
Would you feel rejected? No, because she didn't reject you, she rejected me.
She rejected Gediminas, she didn't reject you. So why would you feel rejected?
Think
about it. When you present your network marketing opportunity to somebody, and
you ask that person, “Hey, would you take a look at my network marketing
business? Hey, would you take a look at my network marketing product?” And a
person says no to you? They say no, I'm not interested. No, get away from me.
No, I'm not interested in network marketing. Why the hell would you take that
personally? Did you invent that company? Did you invent that product? Did you found
that company? Did you invest all the money? Did you start it all up? Did you
decide which products the company will have? Probably no! You just work with
that company and you’re showing it to other people? Somebody else founded that
company, somebody else decided what products that company will do, and somebody
else created those products, somebody else invested their money, built
factories and all of that. It has nothing to do with you. You didn't create
that.
If
I come to you and present you my network marketing opportunity, and you say no
to that network marketing opportunity, you didn't reject me, you rejected my
business, or you rejected my product, so why would I take it personally? It
would make no sense exactly the same way how I explained in the previous
example, isn't it? So stop taking that rejection personally, when you present
somebody your product or your business and that person says no, it's got
nothing to do with you. It's between that person and your company, it’s between
that person and your product, and they never said I don't like you, they never
said I don't want to work with you, they never said I don't like you or
whatever. They said I don't want to buy this product. They said I don't want to
join this business. It's got nothing to do with you whatsoever. Get it? I hope
this will help you. Think about it. Think about it hard. Nobody will ever
reject you in business; they’re rejecting your product or your business. So
stop taking it personally and stop getting upset by it and just show it to as
many people as possible.
That’s my training and tip for you. Hope you got value some value in
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Yours
in success
Gediminas.
In : Personal Development
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