Don’t talk to STRANGERS!
I want to talk to you about expectations and you not talking to strangers. When
we try to build a home based business very often people are quite scared.
Very often when we're trying to build a home based business, a lot of people
are terrified of speaking to strangers and talking to people about their home
based business. They’re scared of sharing the products with strangers. They’re
scared of starting conversations with people and potentially asking them to
join the business. Why is that? Why do people feel that way? Why are they
scared of talking to strangers about the business?
Well, it’s very, very simple
actually because many of us grew up like that. Because guess what, when you
were a kid, when you were a little girl or a little boy and you went into the
playground or you went into the park, what did your parents tell you? Well,
there's a big chance that they told you don't talk to strangers, stranger
danger. They can kidnap you, they can do something bad to you. So God forbid,
never talk to strangers.
So
it actually ingrained in your brain, that there's a danger when you speak to a
stranger. That it can be bad consequences if you speak to strangers. And
because it's been ingrained in you and drummed into you for so long, when you
grow up and decide to join a network marketing business and your sponsor just
goes, “Hey, the entire planet is your prospects. Go speak to people.” And
you're terrified of doing that, you're terrified of starting conversations, you're
terrified of talking to people. Why? Because it's been inbuilt in your head,
don't talk to strangers, don't start conversations.
Also,
it's about a fear of rejection. And again, the chances are, you have gotten it
from very young age, because when you were small, maybe you’re in the
kindergarten or maybe you're in a school, maybe primary school, you go speak to
a girl or you go speak to a boy, and they laugh at you or they run away from
you or they giggle and they don't talk to you or something. You felt awkward.
You felt uncomfortable. You felt bad. Like, oh, that's not nice when somebody
is not friendly with you.
So because of those experiences again, the chances
are you've built up in your head that hey, if I speak to a stranger, there's a
chance that they will reject me, there's a chance that they will not talk to me,
there's a chance that they will not like me. And because of that, again, we
feel that fear of, “Oh my gosh, what if this happens?”
What can you do? If you're feeling that fear, if you have that fear of reaching
out to a stranger to start conversations, what could you do? Well, what you
could do is start reversing this process by retraining your brain. You see, you
remember the few instances maybe, of people rejecting you, or people not liking
you or people are not talking to you or not responding in a positive way, but
because they are a lot more sharp in your brain because they're a lot more
emotional, because you felt bad when that happened.
But for every one that
somebody rejected you, for every instance that somebody rejected you, there's
100 instances where people didn't reject you. Like you met people in school,
you met people at university, you met people in your new workplaces, and you
started conversations with brand new people and they reacted fine. They reacted
positively, they were actually quite friendly to you. So all you have to do is
start focusing on all the good instances of communicating with people, instead
of focusing on the very few that were negative.
So
every time when you have an opportunity to speak to a stranger, or to talk to a
stranger that could potentially join your business or become your customer, or
just to start building a relationship and you feel that fear, you feel the
butterflies in your belly, think about 10, 20, 30 instances when you start in a
conversation with a stranger and it turned out to be great, when you started
conversation with a stranger, and you had an amazing conversation, when you
start a conversation with a stranger and you had great time. Think about 10, 20
instances when that happened. And then go and speak to the person because that
will alleviate your fear, it will alleviate your procrastination.
That’s my training and tip for you. Hope you got value some value in
this blog post, if you did, feel free to share it with other people. If you
would like more amazing trainings check out “Network Marketing Success
Training” group http://titaniumsuccess.co.uk/successtraining.php. There are 10 amazing lessons in
this training course that will help you get the breakthrough in your business!
Yours in success
Gediminas.
In : Personal Development
Tags: overcoming your fears for greater results in your business.