Do you feel ENTITLED? 🧐
I want to talk about entitlement and do you feel entitled?
Now what I mean by
that is that there is a group of people out there who feel like the world owes
them something. And it comes across quite strong very often where a person will
declare what has to be done for them. Why hasn't this been done for them, and
why is not the doing that for them and why is this not done the way they feel
like it should be done? And basically what they're saying is that
they’re entitled that the world owes them something, that the company owes them
something, that everybody else owes them something and should do things etcetera.
And that's one way to present yourself. That's one way to express yourself. So
that's one way. Another way would be to be humble, and to be gracious and to
have gratitude for things that happen for you and things that don't happen,
they don't happen. And it's very different feeling when you dealing with people
with those two different opposing views.
And I think what a lot of people who
have this mentality of entitlement don't realize that very quickly people stop
wanting to help them because as a leader, as somebody who's trying to help the
team, if you get this person time and time again, express how, “Oh. Why is it
not like that? And why did I don't get this and why has that not been done?”
But guess what happens? The person who's helping them stops wanting to help
that person because no matter what they do, it's not good enough anyway and
they stop in, “You know what, this is just a waste of my time because this
person expects the world.”
Very
rarely you'll find this entitlement mentality in successful people. Usually
it's the unsuccessful people who are still waiting for others to do something
for them. They’re still waiting for the company to become better, they’re still
waiting for the product to become-- They're not thinking about themselves
getting better, of course, it's everybody else and everything else, it has to
get better for them to progress in life, for them to get results in business.
And then when you look at successful people, usually you find who, you find
humble people who they just get on with it. They just do what they can do with
what they've got available. So instead of asking the company to change, they get
better.
Instead of asking for product to change, they get better, instead of
asking for the leaders to change, they get better. And it's a completely
different feeling that when you dealing with that type of person who comes to
you and says, “Hey, this is happening, I'm not sure why is this happening, but
how could we resolve? Is there a way to help with this?” You will be
more willing to help that person right? Because they don't come at you going,
“Why is this not being done? And why is this not a better quality?”
So if you are
one of those people who is always entitled, just know that by having that
mindset, by radiating those waves that the world owes me something, you are
actually repulsing people from you, you’re actually losing people, you’re
actually losing people who would be willing to help you, but they won't help
you just because of your mindset, just because of your mentality. They will
stop helping you because they'll say, “This person will not appreciate anyway,
this person is not coming from the right place.”
And
if you deal with people like that, then it's hot. Maybe tag them on this video.
No, no don't tag them because everybody will gets tagged in this video, will think,
“Do they think that I've been titled?” No, I'm just kidding. But the idea is
that if you are like that, try to start changing the mindset. Try to work on
your mind and think, how can I just be humbled and say, “Hey, look.” Like, I
sometimes get challenges, I sometimes get problems.
So I always try to reach
out to somebody who could help me to solve this problem in a way that says, “Hey,
look, this happened to me. I'm sure this wasn't your intention. I'm sure this
wasn't your company's intention. But it happened. Is there a way we could
resolve this? Is there a way we could change this? Is there a way?” I'm going
to come, “Hey, why did you do this? Why did this happen? And how dare you?” Because
then people don't want to help you. People don't want to interact with people
like you that. And it's surprising that people who have this problem usually
are the ones who don't notice that, they don't realize that they have got this
problem.
It's just about through education and through helping people to
grow themselves, we can help them to change that mind-set and to become
somebody who’s more humble and who would appreciate things. Instead of demanding
things that should be there, why not appreciate things that are there, things
that you didn't have to create, things that were already done for you and that
helps you then to become grateful. I love how in our team, we have this
practice of gratitude, where the team members are always thinking, what can I
be grateful about today? What could I be grateful for?
As simple as it can be
totally a small thing, but instead of focusing on what was not right, what was
wrong, what I didn't have, we're focusing on what we do have, what do we do
appreciate, there's always something to appreciate. So try to appreciate things
that you have been given and just think about what work goes into produce those
things. And, you know, you know, some things are very basic things, like think
about the cars that you didn't have to invent the libraries you didn't have to
build the internet you didn't have to create the electricity you didn't have to
invent. But you inherited all of those things. When you were born, you
inherited and a lot of us we’re taking it for granted. You know, there are
still people who don't have access to water and electricity and things like
that.
Be grateful for those things, but also within your immediate space,
you know, things like if you're in business, you know, the training resources,
the systems, the products, you didn't have to invent those products somebody
went and invented them, right. So like they say, we are not entrepreneurs for
real, because entrepreneurs were people who founded the companies,
entrepreneurs were people who invented the products, we are in entrepreneurs,
meaning that we already riding on the things that other people have invented on
the things that other people have created.
We're just riding on that system and
making it into a business of our own, you know what I mean? So just be grateful
for things that you have, instead of being upset by things that you don't have,
because like in our company we have like more than 1000 products, right? So
almost always there's something out of stock, because it's impossible to always
have 1000 products and stuff and it surprises me how so many people go, “If
only this product was in stock, then I could do business,” doesn't matter that
999 other products are in stock, they’re focusing on one thing that is out of
stock, you know what I mean?
So always look at what do I have that I can use
instead of focusing on what I don't have, that I could use if I had, you know
what I mean? And it's same applies to training programs, to systems to people,
etcetera. Sometimes as we're building a team again, we all want a massive team
with hundreds of thousands of people, you know, but you hear these things all
the time and I think it comes from the Bible where it says, to be ruler over many you have to be
faithful when the amounts are small, to be ruler over many you have to be
faithful when they amounts are small. So many people say well, when I have
a huge team, I will really look after them.
But now that I only have three
people, I don’t blood know what they do. What I start making 10,000 a month,
I'm really going to be good with money, but now that I only get my salary, I
don't know where all of that money goes. Oh, yes, we should let you run the
country then. So you have to get good at managing whatever little you have before
you can be given more, before you can get access to more people, before you can
get access to more money, before you can get access to more sales. You know
what I mean?
If we’re not managing the little that we have, how could we expect
more from the universe? It's like; the greatest example I've ever heard was
from Teehav Acre and he said, imagine this scenario. Imagine you walk into an
ice cream shop, what a kid maybe it's your nephew or maybe it's your child, or
whoever that is, right. So you walk with this small child and you come with
them to an ice cream shop and they go, “I want that one.” So you order them an
ice cream cone with one scoop of ice cream right? And then the shopkeeper gives
him the ice cream. The kid takes the ice cream happy and as you turn around,
you're walking through the door. The kid drops the ice cream on the floor now
because you're a nice uncle or aunt, or dad or mom you of course turn around
and say, “Okay, let's go and get another one.” And as you walking back to the
tail with the ice cream man stands, the kid sees on the wall, a poster with three
scoops and the kid says, “I want a three scoop.” Do you get the kid the free
scoops?
Now unless your mental you say of course not because I got him one
scoop and he already dropped the damn thing. If I get him three scoops for sure
it's going to be a disaster. Absolutely. And I agree with that, and I
understand you, but also, that's how universe operates. So if you get one team
member, and you don't look after them, and they fail, and they don't make any
money and they quit the business, you go into the universe, “Oh, one more, give
me more team members.” The universe is going what's the point? I gave you one, you
wasted it? You know what I mean?
So we have to get better at appreciating what
we have, and treating what we have properly before we can ask for more from
Universal, from God or from whatever Infinite Intelligence, whatever you
believe in, right? You understand what I'm saying. So that's why we just have
to be grateful. We have to appreciate things, we have to value things and then
more will be given to us.
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Yours
in success
Gediminas.
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