Success Is A Way Of Life - Not A Destination

The title of this is, are you practicing cannibalism in your business? So this is going to be interesting. So what the hell is cannibalism?



Well, you probably know the cannibalism in the real sense of the word. Cannibalism is when the same species eats its own species. So humans eating humans, pigeons eating other pigeons, and so on. When an animal eats its own kind, it's called cannibalism. And it causes a lot of problems, like I mean, genetically health wise, it's just we're not meant to eat our own.

When an animal eats its own kind, it causes a lot of health problems and things like that and reproduction and stuff like that, but of course, you probably gathered by now that I'm not going to talk about the real world, the real meaning of cannibalism, what I mean what I'm referring to cannibalism is recruiting people, trying to recruit people within your own business since basically trying to recruit people from another team within your business, another structure within your business. And that's called cannibalism. Some people call it poaching.

Some people call it other different names, but it's basically when you're trying to persuade another person within the same team to come and join you instead. Now, it's wrong on so many levels, like I could spend an hour talking about it, but the main thing about it is just it's unethical and it's such a short sightedness because let alone everything else, the ethics and morals and everything, let's say somebody has no ethics, has no morals, they just do whatever the heck they want. Think about what will they do for your business?

Number one, if you invite somebody from your own company, from somebody else's team to come down to yours, what sort of person do you think you put yourself out to be? Like, what do you think that person thinks of you when you do that? Do they think of you of like a leadership person, like a person to follow, like somebody with integrity, somebody with morals, etcetera, and ethics? What do you think they think of you? If you try to pitch them, “Hey, man, like, quit that, you can come to my team instead? It's going to be better. I'll look after you better.” So that's number one.

Number two, think about if the person does that, how loyal do you think that person is going to be in your team? If that person just quit somebody else who actually went through the hell of finding them, pitching the business to them, sending them a presentation, recruiting them, possibly even training them in the business. So that person just went through all of that and they were not loyal to that person, but you come and poach them, how loyal do you think they will be to you? It’s just mental, it’s just nuts.

This cannibalism within the business, it can cause you a lot more trouble than good. And of course, most companies will have rules and regulations in place to punish people for that too. So if you get caught poaching people from other teams and trying to cannibalize other structure is within your company, there's a big chance that they can suspend your membership and they can even throw you out of the company and get rid of you.

Think about it again, is it worth for you to lose all the work, all the effort, all the time you've invested in building up your business for this one person that you might steal from this other person? Is it worth it? Is that really going to help it because at the end of the day, no one person can change your business?

Like, somebody can come in your business and bring a lot of volume and do a lot, but in the end, your business will never rely just on one person anyway, like, you're going to have to recruit a lot more. So are you going to steal your way, are you going to poach your way to success, to the top of the company? Like that's unlikely to happen, isn't it? But what it's going to do for sure, it’s going to give you a hell of a reputation in the company because trust me, network marketing is like a small village. You fart on one end, the other end already know that you farted.

When you do dodgy stuff, oh my god, it spreads like wildfire. You may think, oh, I'm so clever. I'm doing it all under the cover, nobody will find out. Trust me, your team knows everything. Trust me, your organization knows everything, you got drunk that one time at the Christmas party and you danced on the table, everybody knows about it. There's no hiding, not in network marketing, for sure. So that's the type of reputation you grow.

So for me personally, my advice for you, now whether you listen to my advice or not, it's up to you. I can only give you an advice, and you may take it or leave it. At the end of the day, it’s entirely you, but my advice for you, don't do it. Don't do it. Because it's just wrong is wrong even if everybody's doing it, and right is right, even if no one is doing it. Wrong is wrong, even if everybody's doing it. Right is right, even if nobody's doing.

So don't be one of those people that go, “Oh, but everybody else does it, but I saw so and so do it, so I can do it too.” Even if nobody knows that you did it, you know. And that's the biggest damage because a lot of you are carrying so much guilt, so much shame, so much anger in you that that's the main thing that's stopping you from success. Not the tools, not the script, not that message, not that picture that you need, not that next person to recruit, that's not stopping you from success, it's the stuff inside, inside here and inside here. That's what's stopping a lot of you. So just because nobody knows about it, doesn't matter, you know it, and that's the most important thing. So do the right thing. Be the right person. Never, never practice cannibalism. Now I'm going to make this even worse. A lot of you’re going to freaking hate me for that, but I would go even as far as saying don't steal people from other companies. So not just within your own company, but even from other companies.

Now hold it, hold it, hold it, before you start attacking me, before you start saying, “You’re a hypocrite. You have people from other companies in your team.” Hear me out. There is two different sides of the medal. One side is if you are actively approaching people from other country companies who are happy in their company and you saying, “Your business is shit; my company's better, my product is better, my marketing plan.” If you do that, I'd say that's wrong too because you actively destroying somebody else's work, you’re actively destroying somebody else's business, you’re actively on purpose causing harm to somebody else's structure in somebody else's business. And that's not great.

Now the other side of that because, hey, I'll be the first one to raise my hand, I have recruited people from other companies in my business, many a time, but, there is a but, those people who came to my business, came to my business, they came because they were not happy where they were at another company. Maybe they were not earning enough money, maybe they had bad feeling where they were, maybe they were fighting with the people in there or whatever else. There's there was a million reasons, but those people came to my business, reached out to me saying, “Hey, I've been seeing the stuff you do. I've been seeing success you have. I'm currently working with this company, but I'm jumping the boat. I'm looking for new home. Could you support me? Could you help me? Can you tell me more about your business?”

In that case, hey, they got to go somewhere anyway. So I might as well be the person where they come, I might be the home for them. I might be looking after them and help them and support them, but I would not go and try to harm somebody. I'm recruiting a lot on social media, right? Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, LinkedIn, Bumble biz, shaper, next door, whatever, right? Like I'm everywhere. I'm on all these apps and all these sites and I don't even know whether I'll find the time to do that. But I'm there, right?

And very often I bump into other people from network marketing companies. So I'm on the direct approach all the time, so as soon as I reach out to somebody go, “Hey, thanks for accepting my friend request. Love your profile. Love the thing. I can see you living in Liverpool and looking to expand my business in Liverpool. Not sure if this is for you or not. But I'm just curious, would you be open to take a look at what I do? Would you be open to take a look at short video? If not, no big deal.” So I'm a direct approach guy. And if the person responds to me, “Hey, I'm already with a network marketing company.” I seize straightaway. I go, “Hey man. I'm proud of you best of luck, keep rocking at what you're doing. I wouldn't want you to distract you from what you're currently doing. Awesome. I'm your biggest fan. I hope my videos will provide value to you. Best of luck!” That's it. I don't go, “Hey, so how long you been doing it? How many team members you have? How much do you actually selling? How much you're making but mine is better.” I don't do any of that.

Now, if the person reaches out to me and they’re with another company and they're not happy, they're not making money, they're looking for something else and they saw my success or they saw my trainings or whatever, and they decide that they want to be part of my business. Cool. I'm open right? Like I'm going to recruit them, I wouldn't say no. But listen to this guys; there is 7 billion people on this planet who are not in network marketing. So why the hell do you have to go and approach the 1% of the 1%, who are in the network marketing, and go through the pain of convincing them, proving them, whatever, you know, pushing them into joining your deal, you know, and then then for forever comparing your business with the other business, and then again, think about it, if somebody jumps from their company, you just suggesting, how long do you think they're going to be in your team? Not very long. I tell you that, so they're not going to stay around along as well.

Instead, there are 7 billion people who have never been in network marketing. Don't know what network marketing is and might be ready to rock and roll. They have no bias, no guilt, no remorse, no bad trainings. They're just fresh the blank canvases why not recruit them and they will be loyal to you. Because, again, getting leaders into your business is awesome. Like, I love it, getting somebody who's already a leader, but developing somebody from nothing from zero to a hero, developing that person.

It builds some trust, it builds some relationship, it builds some loyalty in that case, you know, because they've been with you through thick and thin, you know, they're there for a long run with you, they're like, my mentor says, you know, you need people you can go to war with them, not to war against to war with, but if there was a war for real, who would have your back in your business and who would run like hell, right? And who would be there saying, “Hey, man, I'm with you till the end. We're going to do this thing.” You want that kind of people. You want to surround yourself with that kind of people. So that's super important.

The last point, I'm just like, I'm coming up with these ideas as I'm talking to you. I don't know how long this blog is going to be. The last point is where your business will go, and why maybe you have people leaving your business. So right now, you might be one of those people watching this and saying, “Yeah, these effing people stealing my people stealing people from my team, these bastards.”

Well, right, you might be one of those people. And I hear you. I was one of them. But it took me to grow myself to know better. So about a year and a half ago, I had a big leader, one of the top leaders from my team, actually the top leader from my team, leave my business. She just picked up and went to another company, and took a bunch of people, and my business went on a free fall down. Now, first reaction, I wanted to be angry. I wanted to be upset. I want to be all things. But I knew I couldn't. Why? Because it's my own fault. Now I know most people don't want to hear that. Hello, it's not my fault. It's other people, it's pointing fingers all directions.

But if people are leaving your team to go to other businesses, you have nobody to blame but yourself. Because if I had strong enough relationship with that person, if I helped and supported enough that person, if I made sure that that person would be making enough money, maybe that person would still be in the business today. So for me whenever things happen in my life, whether it’s positive or negative, and more often than not, it's negative. I try not to get upset by it or annoyed or frustrated. But I always ask myself a question. What's the lesson in here? What's the lesson in this? Like yeah, it sucks. Yeah, it's a negative experience. But what's the lesson in here? What can I learn from the situation?

Because if you're not learning, it’ll keep happening to you. You know, some people come to you, all these things happen to me. And all you can say, well, these things usually happen to people like you. Right? Because they're not learning, right? They just keep doing same thing over and over again, and expecting a different result. And that's the first sign of insanity.

So I believe that I'm not insane or at least not that insane, right? I'm insane on my lives, but I'm maybe not that insane. So for me I looked at that situation. Yeah, it sucks. Yeah, I hate it. But what can I learn from it? Or maybe what I can learn from it is to look after people better, to love people more, to support people more, and to build stronger relationships with people in my team, to really embrace people in my team to make them feel so good that they wouldn't want to leave my team, that they wouldn't want to leave to another company to help them make so much money that they would not even think ever about turning their back on this business. You know what I mean?

Two different ways hate on the world, point fingers, say you know how horrible everybody is. Or turn the thing is about because you know, when you're pointing a finger, there's always three fingers pointing back at you, you know that right? So, never point your fingers anyway, right? But if you understand that, then you can learn how to learn from those situations and make it better to where people are no longer leaving your business to where people are staying your business and coming to your business instead. And I believe I managed to achieve some of those things, you know, to turn it around somewhat and to get people to come into me instead, instead of leaving my business you know what I mean?

So guys, I know this was a bit heavy blog one of those blogs you know, not all my blogs are just like fun and happy and go whistling etcetera. Some of my blogs are a hard truth, tough love. But trust me long term, it will benefit you to be ethical, long term, it will benefit you to have high morals and high standards, it will form the ethics of your group to because whatever you do, that's what your team is copying. That's what they copying right? So you horrible if you are horrible to people, your team will be horrible to people. If you mistreat your customers, your team will mistreat the customers if you do unethical things, your team will do unethical things.

If you talk behind other people's backs, your team will do the same thing. So just know that like your children they're copying you they watching you always same as your team your team is like your children. They are watching what you're doing. You do naughty stuff; they'll do naughty stuff you show example and integrity, they will start building their own integrity and their own example. So I hope that I maybe will inspire some people in the team to do the right thing and to follow the right path and to be full of integrity and ethics.

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Gediminas.