Success Is A Way Of Life - Not A Destination

Today I wanted to share with you five rules for leadership. So if you are aspiring to be a leader in network marketing, or maybe you're already a leader, or you're already have a team then these five rules might help you just to become a better leader or maybe to lead in a better way.

Rule number one, you can get whatever you want in network marketing, but not by stopping other people from getting what they want. What do I mean by that? There are a lot of people in network marketing and unfortunately, there's a lot of leaders in network marketing who make a habit of putting other people down, who make a habit of making other people feel bad, or who make a habit of making other people feel small or inferior to them. 

That's one of the worst things you can do as a leader. Actually, as a leader, you should be the complete opposite. You should be always lifting your people up. You should be always inspiring your people. You should be always promoting your people and that's what real leaders do. Real leaders don't push themselves forward but they push their people forward. They promote their people they say, “Yeah, thanks for all the compliments. But have you seen this leader that I have in my team? Oh, yes thank you for this award. That's awesome. But have you seen this leader that I have on my team?” That's what real leaders do; they promote other people, they inspire other people instead of pushing other people down to feel better themselves, pushing other people down to to show up that I'm a bigger leader than them. That's the worst thing you can do. You know, spreading rumours about other people, talking behind other people's back etc. For me personally, whenever I have people talking behind my back, I'm happy because it means that I'm at the front. 

Rule number two is purple fever. Actually purple fever was discovered a long time ago in medicine, when doctors were delivering babies a lot of mums were dying. A lot of mums would get sick and die and they were like, what is causing it, it must be like this fever that’s spreading etc. And actually later on they realised that it was because they didn't wash their hands between the deliveries, they were spreading bacteria and the mums were dying after giving birth and it was called purple fever. So what does it mean? They were looking for all the reasons why all these moms are dying but they were the problem themselves, the doctors were the problem, the doctors were causing those deaths because they were spreading the bacteria with their hands because they were not washing and when they started washing their hands with chlorine, the deaths stopped. So they were the problem, but they were looking for a problem everywhere. 

So as a leader, sometimes you have to step back and look if the problem is not you, like for example, when somebody says, “Oh, somebody left my team, they went to another company, somebody left my business, they went to another business, oh they’re so bad. Oh you know that another person that took them from my team are so bad.” You know what, I blame me if somebody leaves my team and goes to another company, and it’s not their fault. It's not the person who stole them it’s their fault. It's my fault. Because if I really work hard with that person, if I'm really like that with them, if I'm really holding them, if I'm really helping them to get results, if I'm really supporting them then they shouldn’t leave my team, they shouldn't go to another company you understand what I'm saying? So sometimes if you’re experiencing challenges in your business, if you’re experiencing difficulties in your business, sometimes you have to step back and look, am I actually causing that problem. Am I actually causing that difficulty in my business? I know it's not easy. I know it's difficult to admit your own fault, but sometimes it's the most powerful revelation you can get in your business.

Step number three is if you want to become successful, you have to be willing to help others as a leader and also to ask for help, which is probably the hardest lesson you know, because most people are too proud. Most people's ego is at the top, so they will do everything not to ask for help. They will do everything not to reach out to somebody say, “Hey, I'm struggling, can you help me out? Hey, can you give me some advice?” 

And it's like one of my mentors used to say, if you were drowning, would you drown quietly? If you were in the water and you were drowning, would you just go, “Oh, let me just drown quietly. I don't want to disturb anybody.” Would you do that?  Or would you scream for help? “Help! Help! I'm drowning.” You'd probably scream for help so that somebody come and save you right? But a lot of people are drowning in business and they’re drowning quietly, they're not selling anything, they don't recruiting everybody, they're not getting any support but they’re just drowning quietly right? Don't do that. If you're struggling, if you're not getting results, if you're not where you want to be, ask for help because there are plenty of people out there who are willing to help. So make sure you ask for help and you help others. As a leader, you need to be helping people in your business, don't just recruit people and leave them. You know my mentality, when I first started in network marketing my idea of being a leader was “throw them against the wall and see who sticks.” That was my idea as a leader so the last thing you want to do is do that, you want to make sure the people you do bring on to the business, you support them, you look after them, you help them to reach their goals, you help them to get where they want to get into the business.

Advice number four for leadership is leaders speak the last. I think it was Nelson Mandela, who said that his father was a great leader. He was I think like a King, in South Africa and he said, “As a kid, I noticed that when the leaders would gather, my father would speak the last instead of trying to speak the first.” So again, a lot of people who are not great leaders, they try to push their message first, they try to push their agenda first. But as a true leader, what you want to do is speak last. Listen to what everybody else said. Listen to what everybody else got to say. And sometimes by not rushing to put your opinion, by not rushing to give your answer, you realise that the real problem was different from what you thought initially that is the real problem or the real challenge. Sometimes you just need to sit back and listen, hear the person out; if they stop they stop to breathe in not that they stop talking. So you true leaders speak last, they sit down, they hear everybody out, and then they deliver their message. And then they deliver the impact. So become a great listener as a leader, hear people out and you'll see again, it's going to help you a lot in your business. You know, one of the things I do with my leaders, we do coaching sessions and I ask, and I listen, I ask and I listen, I'm just asking questions and I’m letting them talk to me, I’m letting them say the things that they have inside of them and I hear things that I've never heard before.

Step number five, you need to understand that whatever leadership you reach, whatever position you reach, whatever rank you reach, whatever check you reach, it doesn't belong to you. It belongs to the people who have put you up there because the only reason why you are a leader, the only reason why you’re making the money you are making, the only reason why you are getting the car that you get in from the company, the only reason why you are getting the respect and the admiration is thanks to the people in your team. If not the people in your team, you wouldn't be where you are. So you don't deserve respect. You don't deserve admiration. You don't deserve the red carpets. You don't deserve for people to fall under your feet and adore you and glorify you because you're so great because everything that you are, is thanks to the people who actually are in your team, is thanks to your leaders underneath  you in your in your team who are working hard to build the businesses etc. So always send it back out to them, always thank them for that, always respect them for it, always appreciate them for that because it's because of those people that you are where you are in that position. You know, it wasn't for them, if it wasn’t for their hard work, if it wasn't for their dedication you wouldn't be in that position where you are today, you wouldn't be making money or maybe you're not there yet but once you get there, you have to remember don't become full of yourself, don't become full of that ego that, “Oh look at me, I'm the King Kong here, I don’t pay for the meeting, I don't do this or that.” Because the only reason why you're there is because of the work of your team, is because of the work of your leaders. That's the only reason why you're there. So stay humble. Remember where you came from, and remember what helped you to get to that position.

These are the five rules for leadership. Hopefully you got some value from that. If you did, feel free to share this blog post. Maybe somebody needs to hear that message and it will help them too. See you all at the top!

That’s my training and tip for you. Hope you got value some value in this blog post, if you did, feel free to share it with other people. If you would like more amazing trainings check out “Network Marketing Success Training” group http://titaniumsuccess.co.uk/successtraining.php. There are 10 amazing lessons in this training course that will help you get the breakthrough in your business!

Yours in success

Gediminas.